Healthier homes, one relationship at a time.
Free, evidence-based education in communication, parenting and co-parenting for the families who need it most and can least afford it.
Adults with six or more adverse childhood experiences died 18.5 years earlier on average (60.6 vs 79.1) in one large study.
Brown et al., 2009of U.S. adults report at least one adverse childhood experience. 17.3% report four or more.
CDC, 2023of U.S. adults grew up through parental separation or divorce, one of the ACE categories.
CDC, 2023Children who do well despite serious hardship have at least one stable, committed relationship with a supportive adult.
Harvard, 201501 · The gap
The classes families are told to take cost money they don't have.
In custody cases, parents are often ordered, or strongly encouraged, to complete parenting or co-parenting classes. Florida requires one in every divorce with minor children. Many California courts can order them too.
Those classes are usually paid out of pocket, and fee waivers vary from county to county. The parents under the most strain, and the children living in the middle of it, are the least likely to get the help.
Archakova would close that gap: free relational health education, built on the research, for families in high-conflict divorce and custody cases, starting in the United States.
02 · Why relational health
Relationships at home shape health for a lifetime.
The CDC-Kaiser ACE Study found that adverse childhood experiences, such as abuse, neglect, household substance use, mental illness, incarceration and, in later versions, parental separation or divorce, add up. Adults with four or more faced 4 to 12 times the risk of alcoholism, drug abuse, depression and suicide attempts.
Harvard's Center on the Developing Child explains why: prolonged stress without supportive relationships becomes toxic stress, which can disrupt a developing brain. The buffer is a safe, stable, nurturing relationship, the same framing the American Academy of Pediatrics adopted in 2021.
The effect doesn't stop in childhood. In the 80-year Harvard Study of Adult Development, the people most satisfied in their relationships at 50 were the healthiest at 80.
Address communication, the home environment and the family, and the effect reaches well past one household. The same research ties childhood adversity to substance use, depression and suicide risk later in life.
03 · The program
What families would learn.
First audience: parents in high-conflict divorce and custody cases. Other vulnerable populations follow.
Talking without escalating
Communication skills for co-parents who can barely be in the same room.
Co-parenting through conflict
Keeping children out of the middle, and out of the fight.
How stress shapes a child
ACEs, toxic stress and what protects against them, in plain language.
One steady adult
Building the stable relationship that research ties to resilience.
Proof of completion
A certificate parents can bring to court. The goal is approval court by court.
04 · The aim
Not a perfect family. A more stable one, so the kids grow up safer.
A family in crisis may not be made whole again. But the pieces that remain can become a calmer, safer home, and that changes the odds for every child in it.
05 · Evidence library
The research this work builds on.
The ACE Study (Felitti et al., 1998)
Of more than 9,500 adults, those with 4+ adverse childhood experiences had 4 to 12 times the risk of alcoholism, drug abuse, depression and suicide attempts.
ACEs and premature death (Brown et al., 2009)
People with six or more ACEs died at 60.6 on average, compared with 79.1 for people with none. The study shows association, not proof of cause.
How common ACEs are (2023 report)
63.9% of U.S. adults reported at least one ACE and 17.3% reported four or more, from 2011 to 2020 survey data.
Preventing toxic stress by promoting relational health (2021)
Policy statement: safe, stable, nurturing relationships buffer childhood adversity and should guide prevention.
Toxic stress and serve and return
Prolonged stress without supportive relationships disrupts brain development. Back-and-forth interaction with a caring adult builds it.
Working Paper 13: the foundations of resilience (2015)
Children who do well despite serious hardship have had at least one stable and committed relationship with a supportive adult.
Relationships and lifelong health
Relationship satisfaction at 50 predicted physical health at 80 better than cholesterol did.
Child-Parent Psychotherapy
A relationship-based treatment for young children exposed to trauma, tested in randomized trials including preschoolers exposed to violence between parents.
ACEs Aware Family Resilience Network (2021)
A $41.5 million effort, co-led by UCSF, to address the health effects of toxic stress across California.
New Beginnings Program
A 10-session program for divorcing parents, tested in three randomized trials and followed for 15 years.
Court-affiliated divorce education (Fackrell et al., 2011)
A meta-analysis of 19 studies found a positive effect for court-affiliated divorce education programs (d = .39).
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